Teaching young children about respect and good manners is a great way to improve your classroom management and teach important life skills. One of the best ways you can do this is through the use of some awesome books about respect for kids! This list of 45 children's books will give you lots of ideas to help your students make good choices and learn about respecting others in a fun way.
It Is Respectful To Have Good Manners
Teaching students about good manners is an important issue during the school year. From the classroom to the cafeteria and everywhere in between children should understand that good manners are a key part of showing respect to everyone in school.
In our classroom, we have a group of superheroes who help us out by teaching us about manners, respect, kindness, and more. They are called The Behavior Bunch and one of the superheroes is Mikey Manners. He teaches how to be respectful in the cafeteria by using good manners.
We read the book Table Talk by Julia Cook and then we worked together to complete an anchor chart about the difference between good and bad manners. This activity, along with a fun game called the Cafeteria Manners game, helped the students learn how to be respectful in the cafeteria to the staff and other students around them.
Books About Good Manners
Mind Your Manners by Nicola Edwards – This is a delightful picture book that takes young readers on an interactive journey to learn about good manners. The book introduces essential etiquette in various settings, from the dinner table to the playground. With its relatable characters and playful approach, “Mind Your Manners” encourages children to understand the importance of respect, kindness, and consideration for others in a fun and memorable way. It's a must-have addition to any classroom library!
Penguin Says Please by Michael Dahl – An adorable picture book that teaches young readers about respect through the endearing adventures of a polite penguin. As children follow Penguin's journey, they learn the power of using simple words like “please” and “thank you” to show respect and gratitude. This heartwarming book is a wonderful tool for instilling respect in children and fostering a kinder, more considerate classroom environment.
The Berenstain Bears Please And Thank You Book by Mike Berenstain – Every child loves The Berenstain Bears! Through the lovable bear family's adventures, children learn about saying “please” and “thank you” in various situations, from asking for help to showing gratitude to each family member.
Hippo Says Excuse Me by Michael Dahl – Join Hippo on a hilarious adventure as he learns the importance of saying “excuse me” in different situations. From accidentally bumping into others to interrupting conversations, Hippo discovers that using polite words and showing consideration for others is a key aspect of respect. It will leave a lasting impression on children, reminding them to be mindful of their actions and treat others with respect and courtesy.
Time To Say Please by Mo Willems – A charming and interactive picture book that skillfully teaches young readers about the importance of using polite words. In classic Mo Willems style, this book not only entertains but also instills the value of respect and consideration for others. “Time to Say Please” serves as a gentle reminder to young readers that using polite words creates a positive and harmonious environment, fostering strong relationships and building a foundation of mutual respect.
Dude, That's Rude by Pamela Espeland – This book provides practical tips and scenarios to help young readers navigate social situations with grace and consideration. From interrupting others to using inappropriate language, “Dude, That's Rude” addresses common behavioral pitfalls and offers solutions for responding respectfully. This entertaining and educational book serves as a valuable tool for teaching children about the importance of treating others with kindness, empathy, and respect.
Excuse Me by Karen Katz – In this book, children follow along as various characters navigate their way through different scenarios where saying “excuse me” is necessary. From crowded buses to busy grocery stores, the book showcases the importance of using polite words to navigate social situations and be respectful of others. This book is a wonderful resource for teaching young readers about the power of politeness and respect in their everyday interactions.
I Say Please And Thank You by Robie Rogge – This simple book shows students the importance of using the magic words and showing respect to others.
The Golden Rule Teaches Us To Be Respectful
One of the basic rules of life is to “do unto others as you would have done to you”. One of our favorite Behavior Bunch superheroes is Respectful Rachel. She teaches students all about how to respect others. Respectful Rachel thinks it's very important to treat others the way we want to be treated and that includes how we speak to one another.
Respectful Rachel teaches the students about the magic words. She teaches us that when we use words like “please”, “thank you”, “may I?” and “excuse me” we are showing respect to the people around us. We do this pocket chart activity where students have to listen to a scenario and then choose the magic word that they would say in each situation.
One of my favorite books to read when we are learning about how to treat others is The Berenstain Bears Show Some Respect by Jan & Mike Berenstain – Young children will relate to this book as the bears encounter various situations that require respectful behavior, from listening attentively to following rules and showing consideration for others. It's a wonderful resource for helping children understand the positive impact of respect on their relationships and the world around them.
Here are some great books to help students learn this important aspect of respecting others and using the golden rule.
The Golden Rule by Ilene Cooper – This book beautifully explores the timeless principle of treating others as we would like to be treated. With its heartwarming message, the book encourages children to embrace the golden rule as a guiding principle in their interactions with others.
The Not So Friendly Friend by Christina Furnival – This cute story introduces young readers to a character who struggles with treating others kindly and respectfully. Through engaging illustrations and relatable situations, children learn about the importance of empathy, understanding, and the golden rule when it comes to building and maintaining friendships. This book will encourage students to become more considerate and inclusive of others.
The Berenstain Bears And The Golden Rule by Jan & Mike Berenstain – This book takes readers on an endearing journey with the beloved bear family. Brother and Sister Bear find themselves in a predicament where they're not treating each other with kindness and respect. Thankfully, Gramps and Gran step in to share their wisdom of the lesson to “Treat others the way you want to be treated.” This is the perfect story to teach students the important lesson that you should “treat others the way you want to be treated”.
Do Unto Otters by Laurie Kellar – In this charming story, Mr. Rabbit learns that his new neighbors will be a family of otters. Feeling a bit unsure, he seeks advice from wise old Mr. Owl, who shares the golden rule: “Do unto otters as you would have otters do unto you.” This is one of the best children's books to teach students essential social skills and respect.
It Is Respectful To Have Good Social Skills
All children need to understand that respect, kindness, and being a good friend are important social skills. This list of books will give your students good examples of respectful behavior and the consequences of thoughtless behavior.
Interrupting Chicken by David Ezra Stein – Meet an adorable little chicken who just can't resist interrupting bedtime stories with her eager and enthusiastic interjections. With each interruption, Papa Chicken patiently tries to guide his little one's behavior and teach her the value of respectful communication. This is one of my favorite books to read when you want to teach students about interrupting in class.
Martha Doesn't Say Sorry by Samantha Berger – Follow the lovable character Martha as she navigates through various situations where her actions unintentionally hurt others. Despite causing unintended harm, Martha struggles to say the word “sorry.” This book explores the concept of owning up to one's mistakes and the power of a sincere apology. Young readers will learn that saying sorry is not only about acknowledging wrongdoing but also about showing empathy and taking steps to make amends.
Being Rude by Joy Berry – With its straightforward and practical approach, “Being Rude” encourages children to reflect on their actions and make positive choices. It offers guidance on how to communicate effectively, listen attentively, and treat others with respect.
My Mouth Is A Volcano by by Julia Cook – Louis is a little boy who struggles with keeping his thoughts from erupting like a volcano, often interrupting others in the process. Through humorous and engaging storytelling, this is one of the best picture books to help children understand the consequences of interrupting and the impact it has on others' ability to express themselves.
One of the biggest respect issues in many classrooms is nonstop student talking. Many children don't understand that it is disrespectful to talk during a lesson or when others are speaking. I address this in my classroom with the book Lacey Walker NonStop Talker.
After reading the story we do a pocket chart sorting activity about when it is ok and not ok to talk. Then the students write about it and make a cute Lacey Walker craft. This activity really helps students understand when talking in school is appropriate and when it is disrespectful.
Another area of concern is student voice levels. Often students don't realize that when they are talking too loud it is disrespectful to the teacher, other students who are working, and even other classrooms in the building. This is an important issue to address early in the school year.
We read the book Decibella And Her Six Inch Voice by Julia Cook to help students learn about appropriate voice levels. In this story, Decibella learns to regulate her voice and understand the impact of her volume on those around her. With the help of a wise teacher, Decibella discovers the value of speaking in a softer and more respectful manner. This is the best book to read if your students struggle with loud voices in the classroom.
After reading the story, the students write about the different kinds of voices we should use in school and make a Decibella craft.
Books That Teach How To Be Respectful In Conflict Resolution
Every child is going to get upset on occasion. These books will help children understand how to solve their problems in a respectful way with their friends.
One by Kathryn Otoshi – In this story, readers are introduced to the vibrant characters of Blue and Red. Blue is a peaceful and calm character, while Red is aggressive and confrontational. When Red starts picking on Blue, the story takes a meaningful turn. “One” explores the impact of bullying and the importance of embracing diversity, respecting one another's differences, and finding peaceful solutions to conflicts.
Talk And Work It Out by Cheri Meiners – This is a valuable picture book that equips young readers with essential skills for conflict resolution and respectful communication. Through relatable scenarios and engaging illustrations, this book guides children through the process of resolving conflicts peacefully and finding common ground.
Teamwork Isn't My Thing And I Don't Like To Share by Julia Cook – In this book, a little boy named Sam initially struggles with teamwork and sharing. Through challenges and experiences, Sam learns the value of collaboration and the joy of sharing with others, transforming along the way. This relatable story inspires young readers to embrace teamwork and sharing in their own lives.
The Fort by Laura Perdew – This book follows the story of Mia, Ben, and Sophie, three friends who embark on an exciting adventure to build a fort. As they work together, Mia demonstrates respect by listening to others' ideas and encouraging their contributions. Ben shows conflict resolution skills by mediating disagreements and finding compromises, while Sophie promotes inclusivity by ensuring everyone's voice is heard and valued. Throughout the story, Mia, Ben, and Sophie face challenges that test their teamwork and problem-solving abilities. They learn to communicate effectively, respect each other's opinions, and find creative solutions that satisfy everyone.
The Squirrels Who Squabbled by Rachel Bright – This book tells about two squirrels, best friends Cyril and Bruse, who are preparing for winter and get in a squabble over the last pinecone. Cyril learns to share and embarks on an adventure to find more food. Bruce joins him, discovering the power of cooperation. Through teamwork and compromise, they find abundant pinecones and strengthen their friendship. This charming book teaches children about sharing, cooperation, respect, and the positive outcomes of working together.
Books That Teach About Respecting Others Personal Space
Many children don't understand the concept of personal space. From getting too close to others to taking things that don't belong to them, understanding personal space is important concept of respect that every child needs to learn.
This Is Not My Hat by Jon Klassen – The story follows a small fish who has taken a hat that doesn't belong to him. As the fish swims away, he believes he can get away with it, but the rightful owner is hot on his trail. Through the fish's misguided actions and the consequences he faces, children learn about the importance of respecting boundaries and understanding that everyone has a right to their own belongings and personal space.
What Happened to You by James Catchpole – The story revolves around a curious child who encounters a wheelchair user and begins asking questions about their condition. Through thoughtful conversations and the wheelchair user's patient responses, the child learns to be considerate, empathetic, and respectful towards others' boundaries and differences.
Don't Touch My Hair by Sharee Miller – This book that helps kids learn about personal boundaries. The story is about Aria, a girl who has beautiful and special hair that she really likes. But throughout her day, some people try to touch or play with her hair without asking first. Aria is brave and speaks up, telling them that her hair belongs to her and should be respected. This book teaches kids that it's important to ask for permission before touching someone's hair or personal space. It shows them how everyone has their own boundaries and deserves to be treated with respect.
Books That Teach About Respect In Everyday Situations
This list of books give good examples of showing respect to others in everyday situations.
What If Everybody Did That by Colleen Madden – Through a series of engaging scenarios, the book challenges readers to consider the consequences if everyone acted in thoughtless or disrespectful ways. From littering to cutting in line, the story highlights how small actions can have a big impact on others and the world around us.
How Do Dinosaurs Play With Their Friends by Jane Yolen and Mark Teague – From sharing toys to taking turns, the dinosaurs model respectful behavior, demonstrating the importance of kindness, empathy, and cooperation in maintaining positive friendships.
Respect And Take Care Of Things by Cheri Meiners – There are many different types of respect. Whether it's caring for toys, conserving water, or keeping our surroundings clean, the book instills in young readers the value of respecting and preserving our belongings and the planet we call home.
Lying Up A Storm by Julia Cook – Although this book does not specifically touch on the topic of respect it does show how people will lose respect for you if you don't tell the truth.The story follows the main character, Louis, who has developed a bad habit of telling tall tales. As Louis weaves his web of lies, he soon realizes that the lies start to pile up, causing confusion and mistrust among his friends and family.
Whoever You Are by Mem Fox – By highlighting the common thread of love and the shared emotions that connect us all, “Whoever You Are” fosters a sense of unity and teaches children the importance of treating everyone with kindness and respect, regardless of our differences.
Noisy Night by Mac Barnett – The story unfolds in an apartment building where a series of loud and disruptive noises disturb the residents' sleep. As each resident investigates the source of the noise, readers witness their diverse reactions and the impact of their actions on their neighbors. Through this humorous tale, children learn about the importance of considering others' needs and practicing good manners in shared spaces.
Piggybook by Anthony Browne – The story revolves around a family where the mother is taken for granted, with the men of the house expecting her to do all the housework and care. However, when the roles are reversed and the men are left to fend for themselves, they soon realize the value of the mom's contributions and the importance of respecting her efforts. Through its powerful illustrations and subtle storytelling, “Piggybook” raises awareness about gender equality, challenging traditional stereotypes, and promoting respect for the roles and contributions of all individuals in a household.
Baditude – What To Do When Life Stinks by Julia Cook – Noodle is a little boy with a negative attitude! He argues, interrupts his teacher during class, and constantly complains. His negative behavior not only affects his relationships with family and friends but also leads to consequences such as missing out on fun activities. But with help from his teacher and mom Noodle learns to turn his baditude into gratitude! This is a great book to show children that bad attitudes can be disrespectful to others.
You Get What You Get by Julie Gassman – Melvin struggles with accepting the things that are out of his control. When he doesn't get the specific toy he wanted, he throws a tantrum. However, through the guidance of his teacher and some playful situations, Melvin learns the valuable lesson that sometimes in life, “you get what you get, and you don't throw a fit.” This book encourages children to embrace flexibility, practice gratitude, and show respect for the things they cannot change,
I Just Don't Like The Sound Of No by Julia Cook – RJ struggles with accepting the word “no.” When his teacher assigns him a project, RJ insists on doing it his way and disregards her instructions. He also argues with his parents when they set limits or ask him to do something he doesn't want to do. Finally his teacher starts a club called the Say YES to NO club. When RJ learns to accept no for an answer he'll get to add his name to the star board! He discovers the importance of active listening, respecting others' decisions, and finding a compromise.
The Best Me That I Can Be – Respect by Rose Angebrandt – In this book a little boy named Keigan learns that showing respect is a big deal and that sometimes you have to turn your wrong actions into right actions!
Books That Teach About The Respect In Our School Community
This is a great list of books that will help children become aware of how they need to show respect in all areas of the school community.
The Crayon Box That Talked by Shane Derolf – In the story, there is a box of crayons that don't get along at first. They all think they are the best color and argue about it. But then, a little girl uses each crayon to make a really nice picture. The crayons see that when they work together, their different colors make something amazing. This story teaches kids to work together and respect each other's talents and ideas, even if they are different.
The Library Lion by Michelle Knudsen – In the story, there is a lion who really likes going to the library. But there is a rule that says no roaring. One day, the librarian needs help, and the lion has to decide if it's okay to break the rule to help her. The book talks about being responsible, following rules, and showing respect to others. It teaches kids that rules are important, especially in places like the library, but it also shows the importance of being kind, helpful, and understanding to people who need it.
The Smallest Girl In The Smallest Grade by Justin Roberts – This book is about a girl named Sally who is the smallest in her grade. Even though everyone else is busy doing their own things, Sally pays close attention to what's happening around her. She sees people being mean, bullying others, and leaving some kids out. But Sally is brave and determined. She stands up for what's right and tries to make the school a kinder and more respectful place. This book teaches students to notice what's going on around them, to be nice to others, and to speak up when something isn't fair.
Books That Show Disrespect
Sometimes young kids just don't understand the concept of disrespect. This list of books is great to use when you need some examples of disrespectful behavior to show children in your classroom.
The Bad Seed by Jory John – This is a story about a seed that isn't very nice to others. It doesn't say “please” or “thank you,” cuts in line, and breaks the rules. But as the story goes on, the seed learns to change its ways and become a better seed. This book teaches students that being disrespectful can hurt others and that it's important to be kind, understand how others feel, and treat everyone with respect.
Chrysanthemum by Kevin Henkes – This is a special book that helps students understand the importance of being respectful. It tells the story of a little mouse named Chrysanthemum who loves her name, but some kids at school make fun of it. Chrysanthemum starts feeling sad and disrespected. Luckily, her teacher helps her see that her name is unique and wonderful. This book teaches students that it's not nice to make fun of others or be disrespectful. It shows how hurtful words and actions can make someone feel bad. It also teaches kids to accept and appreciate everyone's differences and to treat others with kindness and respect.
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